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Sometimes we feel good, and sometimes we feel bad. Both kinds of feelings are normal. Of course, we all enjoy good feelings. But when we don't like the way we are feeling, sometimes we don't know what to do about it. Here is a plan that will help you help yourself when your feelings are bothering you.

 

1. ACCEPT your feelings. Say to yourself: "I am sad." "I am frightened." "I am angry." "I am embarrassed." It's all right to have feelings.

 

2. RELAX and take "time out" before you act. Take slow deep breaths and relax all the muscles of your body. Pretend you are in a safe place.

 

3. THINK about ways to help yourself. Thinking helps you do something smart instead of harming yourself or making things worse.

 

4. DO something to help yourself. Maybe it would help to talk to someone, or to do something you enjoy. If it doesn't work, go back to step 3.

 

 

Source: Dlugokinski, Eric. Dealing With Feelings: Feelings Factory, Inc., Raleigh, NC.

 

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