Shocking Discovery: Everything is Wrong

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I was talking to this woman the other day,

who looked sooo sad! So I asked her what was wrong, and she said, "EVERYTHING."

 

I said," Everything?" 

And she said, "Yes, everything!"

 

So I asked her, "Are you feeing all right?"

She answered, "Yes, pretty much."

 

I said, "Do you have children?"

And she said, "Yes, I have 2 of them."

I asked, "Are they healthy and happy?"

She said, "Why, yes they are."

 

I said, "Do you have a car, and does it run well?"

She said, "Yes, and I don't have any problems

with my car."

 

So I said (and don't get mad at me like she did),

"So not EVERYTHING is wrong, is it?"

And, you guessed it, she got really mad at me.

 

But here's my point:

 

You can't just lump your problems under "EVERYTHING." It doesn't work that way.

In problem-solving you first have to define the problem before you can figure out a solution.

Ok, so what IS your problem?  (You already

know it  is not EVERYTHING.)

 

Pick ONE problem. Let's just work on ONE

problem..

 

Ok, now let's work on the solution.

Start a list.  Really!  Take out a piece of paper and a pencil or pen, and start a list. Write down the problem at the top of the piece of paper.

 

Problem not that important?  Then it's easy to solve, and you can take care of it without this

system.

 

But if it's bigger than that, try this system:

 

Ok, back to your piece of paper with your problem written at the top. 

You're ready to start writing your solutions down now.

 

I know, I know, you're probably thinking, "you don't know what you’re talking about.  You don't know anything about my life or my

problems."

 

You're right.  I don't.  But this system does work. I use it myself.

 

Think of the most impossible way you can to solve your problem.  The "no way this will solve my problem" solution.

 

As a friend of mine says, "The impossible

just takes a little longer!"

 

Then work down from there, until you find

the right solution to your problem.

It works, trust me!

 

click here to download .pdf file

Now listen close...

 

      Ok, I'm going to tell you a secret...

 

EVERYBODY HAS PROBLEMS!!!!

You're not the only one! 

But not EVERYTHING is wrong, is it?

There have to be SOME things that are right!

 

So here's my advice:

 

Be grateful for the things that are going right

Good luck -

you are now an "Ace"

problem-solver